I used to have so much shame around this topic. I was really good at articulating that I had my shit together and was able to hide enough so that my massive dependency on others never showed but I really struggled for a long time. And there’s multiple sides to this but to be clear – I’m going to talk about developing emotional/mental independence as well as physical independence. The first thing that comes to mind is that you…
How I Went from Vogue to Eckhart Tolle the inner work
if not now, when? addressing the fear of ‘the rug being pulled out’
It feels so heavy, doesn’t it? That constant fear and paranoia. That dread that comes every time you feel slightly lighter or your life seems to be a little too ‘peaceful.’ You start to panic. You tap into…
If you’d ask the angriest parts of me years ago about the grieving process I’m going to explain to you – I probably would have told you to fuck off. GRIEVING?? MORE LIKE FUCKING RELIEF. Because in order to…
Relationships During Recovery the inner work
the upside of being the bigger person, even when you don’t want to be
Without going into extreme detail about my own personal experiences with being the bigger person, — this is a subject that in the past few years I have learned a lot about. I’m talking both, online humiliation and in…
I’ll be the first person to admit that I thought the concept of ‘self-love’ was the cheesiest idea. It felt fake, uncomfortable and entirely foreign to me. ‘you have to love yourself!’ ‘love yourself first!’ Which is very easy…
When your parent(s) treated you like shit and conditioned you to believe the world was a bad place as a way to keep you dependent, … then of course – that’s exactly how you’re going to see the world.…
How do you manage the incessant desire to protect or save your family members? The need to want to ‘save’ your mother? Your father? Your siblings? And when you’ve given up on your toxic parent … the next boyfriend,…
It can be sad to admit this but I went through most of my life convinced that if someone wanted to be around me, if a guy wanted to date me or if an employer thought highly of me…
There was a period of time in my life where I was hell bent on convincing the world that I just DGAF. I was angry, critical, outspoken and completely hated authority. I worked on portraying this confident /…
The whole experience of going no contact and learning how to create a life for myself has been the most … liberating, exhausting, trying and challenging season of my life. Not because I’m torn between my decision and…