Relationships During Recovery the inner work

handling outside criticism

There was a period of time in my life where I was hell bent on convincing the world that I just DGAF.   I was angry, critical, outspoken and completely hated authority. I worked on portraying this confident / ‘you can’t fuck with me’ personality as a way to protect the deep pain and sadness that I wasn’t ready to face and was completely sure I could override. It was also a means of survival as I couldn’t show any…

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what i’ve learned; summer ’19

The whole experience of going no contact and learning how to create a life for myself has been the most … liberating, exhausting, trying and challenging season of my life.   Not because I’m torn between my decision and…

How I Went from Vogue to Eckhart Tolle

from coping to healing

I used to read Bright Eyes lyrics when I was a teenager. The word choice was education for me. I’d ‘dictionary.com’ what I didn’t understand and tried to memorize everything else.   I’d then watch shows like; The Cosby…

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managing triggers

I used to be a very reactive person. I would get upset or irritated over pretty much anything and everything. Especially when it came to change. This behavior was exhausting for me and unfortunately would help justify my mom’s…

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the truth can be so revealing. when I chose to write about this topic, I literally sat with myself and was just wow’d at how far I’ve come. While some of us who experience social anxiety (we may not…

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what I do to feel positive everyday

And I’m not talking about bullshit premature positivity. I’m not talking about I’m secretly drowning in my personal life only to pretend I’m doing great on social media. I’m talking about real, sustainable, spent years withering in the dark…

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5 things to remember when managing guilt

How heavy and exhausting is the guilt? A guilt that was given to you. A guilt that feels so wrong but that you can’t shake off. Including;  Feeling responsible for someone else’s behavior. Feeling in charge of someone else’s…

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the reality of growth

Regardless of who you follow or whose advice resonates with you, there is one thing about growth that I want to share as it’s something I’ve had to learn over and over again; THERE IS NO FINISH LINE. There…