the inner work

7 things to consider when finally becoming independent

I used to have so much shame around this topic. I was really good at articulating that I had my shit together and was able to hide enough so that my massive dependency on others never showed but I really struggled for a long time.   And there’s multiple sides to this but to be clear – I’m going to talk about developing emotional/mental independence as well as physical independence. The first thing that comes to mind is that you…

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the grieving process; in my own words

If you’d ask the angriest parts of me years ago about the grieving process I’m going to explain to you – I probably would have told you to fuck off. GRIEVING?? MORE LIKE FUCKING RELIEF. Because in order to…

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what you need to know about self-love

I’ll be the first person to admit that I thought the concept of ‘self-love’ was the cheesiest idea. It felt fake, uncomfortable and entirely foreign to me. ‘you have to love yourself!’ ‘love yourself first!’ Which is very easy…

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post trauma paranoia

When your parent(s) treated you like shit and conditioned you to believe the world was a bad place as a way to keep you dependent, … then of course – that’s exactly how you’re going to see the world.…

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what i’ve learned; summer ’19

The whole experience of going no contact and learning how to create a life for myself has been the most … liberating, exhausting, trying and challenging season of my life.   Not because I’m torn between my decision and…