the truth can be so revealing. when I chose to write about this topic, I literally sat with myself and was just wow’d at how far I’ve come. While some of us who experience social anxiety (we may not even know that’s what we are experiencing) choose to isolate because it’s less threatening then engagement, I was the exact opposite. I internally isolated but I externally had extreme FOMO. Looking the part and being the part was too important…
Relationships During Recovery the inner work
the upside of being the bigger person, even when you don’t want to be
Without going into extreme detail about my own personal experiences with being the bigger person, — this is a subject that in the past few years I have learned a lot about. I’m talking both, online humiliation and in…
I’ll be the first person to admit that I thought the concept of ‘self-love’ was the cheesiest idea. It felt fake, uncomfortable and entirely foreign to me. ‘you have to love yourself!’ ‘love yourself first!’ Which is very easy…
When your parent(s) treated you like shit and conditioned you to believe the world was a bad place as a way to keep you dependent, … then of course – that’s exactly how you’re going to see the world.…
How do you manage the incessant desire to protect or save your family members? The need to want to ‘save’ your mother? Your father? Your siblings? And when you’ve given up on your toxic parent … the next boyfriend,…
It can be sad to admit this but I went through most of my life convinced that if someone wanted to be around me, if a guy wanted to date me or if an employer thought highly of me…
There was a period of time in my life where I was hell bent on convincing the world that I just DGAF. I was angry, critical, outspoken and completely hated authority. I worked on portraying this confident /…
The whole experience of going no contact and learning how to create a life for myself has been the most … liberating, exhausting, trying and challenging season of my life. Not because I’m torn between my decision and…
I used to read Bright Eyes lyrics when I was a teenager. The word choice was education for me. I’d ‘dictionary.com’ what I didn’t understand and tried to memorize everything else. I’d then watch shows like; The Cosby…
There are many lessons that come up regularly as I continue to heal. Though one of the main ones and one I want to share with you is; You can’t save anyone. This past week, an old and…
I used to be a very reactive person. I would get upset or irritated over pretty much anything and everything. Especially when it came to change. This behavior was exhausting for me and unfortunately would help justify my mom’s…