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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

5 things to remember when managing guilt

How heavy and exhausting is the guilt? A guilt that was given to you. A guilt that feels so wrong but that you can’t shake off. Including;  Feeling responsible for someone else’s behavior. Feeling in charge of someone else’s life. Feeling selfish just because you want some fucking space.  Taking on projections of others and their opinions because they don’t understand what they’ve never seen.  UHHH IT CAN BE SO BAD THAT YOU JUST WANT TO GIVE IT ALL UP…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

the reality of growth

Regardless of who you follow or whose advice resonates with you, there is one thing about growth that I want to share as it’s something I’ve had to learn over and over again; THERE IS NO FINISH LINE. There is no end game. Once you choose this life, growth is constant. Growth is continuous. Every new level you elevate to, there is more to uncover. New levels, new devils – right? I don’t intend to discourage you — I say…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

my thought process behind going no contact

I receive a lot of questions on when and how do you decide when is the right time to officially call it quits. And I get it. Going no contact is a big decision. It’s a personal decision. It can be a confusing decision. It can be a really painful decision. Even if you’re at the point where you’re so worn out that you just don’t give a fuck anymore, it’s still a big decision. And truth is – I…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

When you worry if you’ll end up just like her

It’s normal to look up to your parents as they are your first example of what it’s like to be human. It’s normal to be proud of them and strive to be like them.   & truth is, as a young girl, I very much idolized my mom in that same way. I would wait for her to get home everyday around 4pm, .. She would save her left over coffee for me And it was just the best feeling.…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

the mindset work

We are our own worst enemy. The way I used to think and what I used to believe set up me for a life full of constant irritation, disappointment and negativity. As a child, I looked to my mother (my father came later on) and copied all of her communication and social skills (really, lack thereof) and most importantly her coping mechanisms. I, the same as her, led with masculinity and anger. I felt it was more important to be…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

a reminder to the part of you that still wants to hold them accountable

Have you ever felt that you couldn’t let go of something until the other person knew how much they hurt you? Until the other person truly understood their role in your sadness, anger or downward spiral? Have you ever felt that incessant need to confront and beat the point home until they understood the pain they have caused?  You are not alone. In healthy relationships, being honest about where you are and how you are affected by certain behaviors is…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

How I Manage My Off Days

One thing I’ve learned about myself this past year is that I am all about systems. I’ve learned that creating systems, whether it’s about my nutrition, my fitness, my oral health, my business tasks, etc — ..is ideal for my personality. I like clarity, organization and a plan. Putting systems in place helps to keep me balanced, focused and accountable. And I want to talk to you today about my system around managing my off days.   Because they’re real.…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

the strangeness of leaving chaos for stability

My name is Amanda and I actively am working on an addiction to chaos. To suffering. To negativity. & this is how I found out; To be completely transparent, I have a lot of second hand experience witnessing substance abuse. With that, addiction to me, in general, is initially a very external experience. Someone relies on a substance or activity in hopes to manage a perceived negative situation that may be happening externally which most likely is caused by paralyzing,…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

How I Dealt with the Lack of Acknowledgement

Acknowledgement.   It’s such an impactful exchange. It’s what we all want, right? To be seen. To be recognized for our efforts. For our concerns to be heard, for our moments of achievement to be witnessed and shared.   But what happens when you’re not acknowledged? What do you do when the person who has caused you a lot of pain, doesn’t take responsibility for it? What happens when you’ve spent most of your existence screaming and crying to be…

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6 Weeks To Living On Your Terms

Anxious to Ease

My life is my greatest teacher. So is yours. There are certain lessons that I continue to learn over and over again. Lessons on trust, connection, and letting go. I’ve turned these lessons into education. I got super clear on what has and has not worked for me and simplified my best insight on helping you to leave that toxic relationship and those behavioral patterns, officially behind. The transformation will take 12 weeks. This will demand toughness, thoroughness, You will…

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